OK, now I'm depressed....

[Svenska Aeroplan]

I don't know why I read that Sexual Experiences thread, but I did, and now I'm depressed. Now I feel really ... left behind. Even my lame friends have gotten laid. (Anyone remember that Rigor Mortis guy? Yeah, even he got laid..)

After my parents split up, I lived with my dad for a few years, but my step-brother and -sisters didn't get along in the slightest bit so I eventually got to move back in with my mom who then proceeded to move several more times (for reasons I won't get into) before marrying my step-dad and dragging me all the way across the country to Oregon where I am now. I've moved more times in my life than I care to count right now.

Honestly, I wouldn't change it since I mostly like the person I've become, but the negative side is that I became quite anti-social. Going to school was hell until we moved to Oregon, and I found a group I fit in quite well with. I wouldn't go as far as saying that I was popular, but I was far from the total loser I was in Texas. (Oh how I loath the south now..) There were even a few girls that liked me (hawt ones at that), and I even "went out" with one, but to make a long story short, I am so fucking un-suave to say it only lasted a week would be lying. It never really got started.

There was also one other girl who really liked me (liked to feel me up and all that), but me being 18 at the time and her 14 just really freaked me out... ...and now she's fat D:

Now I'm out of high school, living on my own, working, and in college (well.. trade school). I really want a girl friend. My biggest problem is that I can go weeks without even seeing any girls my age. The people at work are all 25+, and since I work during the day, I have to take night classes with a bunch of 40 somethings who failed at life and are trying again. The few girls my age are in other programs and I don't have any classes with them. (Girls got no love for the IT program...) Now, I know it wouldn't be too hard to just go into the mall, act like a cocky bastard, and pick up some girl, but I really just don't want some random girl. (Especially the type that hangs out at the mall...)

Now, my biggest problem is even if I get a girl to go out with me, how the fuck am I supposed to say, "I'd kiss you right now, but I don't really know what to do.. I've never kissed a girl in 19 years of my life and I'm still a loser virgin, but you still like me right?"

I'd be nice if I could find a girl in the same position as I am, but what girl goes 19 years without being somewhat experienced (unless they are ugly manatees)?

[Nega-Brent]

For some reason the ending credits theme from the live-action Incredible Hulk television show played in my head whilst I read your post.

[Anime Gee]

Ah! Do not worry young man. When you least expect it, someone will come along & before you know it, you'll be having a hot & sweaty sex session with her! (^o^ ) <3

Then you'll get bored with her & move along & the vicious cycle will begin. After a while, you'll get bored of banging random chicks left & right.

One day, you suddenly meet someone that is so fucking awesome that sex is the last thing on your mind. You start to feel really different about her & you actually enjoy being with her, around her, & doing random things with her. Before you know it, you're proposing to her, getting married, & having kids! ( ^o^) <3

Trust me. It'll happen when you least expect it. In fact, it'll probably happen when you're not even looking. Sometimes you don't even realize it, but she might be right under you nose. (^_^ )

But yeah. Don't sweat it. You're still young & have plenty of time. ( ^_^)

[Svenska Aeroplan]

I know I know. That thread just really hit me hard.

I just drives me crazy to know that while I work for a living and go to school to secure my future, my pot-head friends are partying and getting laid.

I'm not daring, and I'm not exciting. It just seems like I'm not the guy girls want to go out with, and I'm not even the guy they want to marry. I'm the guy the want to have been married to for a while already. ..not that I believe in marriage..

[Anime Gee]

^ Don't worry. All your friends that are out partying right now, will pay the consequences later. When you're done with school, you'll be reaping massive amounts of rewards. Your friends will be working at dead end jobs & in debt. You're actually doing quite good. (^_^ )

I'm 31 & I've seen this happen to a lot of my friends throughout the years, so yeah. You're on course. ( ^_^)

[Svenska Aeroplan]

I know. I tell myself that everyday, but it doesn't make me any less lonely right now. (,_,)

[FaultyClockwork]

I know I'm 3 years younger but I'm going f'ing nuts not having anyone to love... let alone have sex with. Just having someone to be affectionate towards would make me not want to carving my heart out with a kitchen knife.

I'm a virgin, I've never had a girlfriend, no one except a few weird or shallow girls who barely no me have ever liked me. Seriously, I'm hopeless and you seem like a neater guy... so I'll bet it'll come soon enough. If you really like the girl and she you, you'll probably know what to do. And even if you don't, she'll probably understand.

I hope you find someone. Really.

[Svenska Aeroplan]

D: That's so nice in a depressing kind of way. I'd say "Don't be so hard on yourslef," but that's kind of the whole point of the thread isn't it?

[Harrison Ford]

Bro I turned letting go of virginity to play video games with my friends. Losing your virginity is some bullshit society thing.

[Belial]

Bro I turned letting go of virginity to play video games with my friends. Losing your virginity is some bullshit society thing.

It happens, but its no big deal.

You won't wake up a new man the next day or anything, and if you do it for the wrong reasons you might wake up realizing you can't go back.

[Svenska Aeroplan]

I know. I don't want to do it just to do it. It's just depressing to think of all the time I've wasted and how akward that is going to make things later on.

[Harrison Ford]

The trick is to find a girl just as in an awkward posish, then you two share a wonderful experiance of first timage.

[Nakey Boy]

"I'd kiss you right now, but I don't really know what to do.. I've never kissed a girl in 19 years of my life and I'm still a loser virgin, but you still like me right?"

See, i just never told them... I just let her guide me...

No, i'm not attempting to be funny, i'm serious. I didn't tell the girl i went out with, and i lost it in a, well, unromantic location (Back seat of her car). I don't pine for her. the ones i pine for are the ones that captured my heart, not my balls

The ones that do capture hearts understand, and would love you for you. EVen if they did have a lot more experience they'd want to shower you with love and teach you how to make their erotic fantasies come true

I know a 23 year old that's still a virgin. He's not ugly, fat or talentless, and the fucker has more (female) friends and goes out more than me.

Gee said it best...

One day, you suddenly meet someone that is so fucking awesome that sex is the last thing on your mind. You start to feel really different about her & you actually enjoy being with her, around her, & doing random things with her. Before you know it, you're proposing to her, getting married, & having kids! ( ^o^) <3

And when you do find that someone special, your virginity or lack of kissing experience won't matter at all

EDIT: And whoever closed the sexual experience thread, Thank you.

[Wind]

haha, i used to be all love depressed and stuff when I was fat.

The unfortunate truth is how shallow everyone is in high-school so I strived to get a good body and stuff, and well it worked. Its not like it feels shallow for me, I'm still the same nerdy ass loser - the jokes on them.

[FaultyClockwork]

D: That's so nice in a depressing kind of way. I'd say "Don't be so hard on yourslef," but that's kind of the whole point of the thread isn't it?

Thanks man. I think I was feeling way too sorry for myself when I wrote that, but the part about no non-sucky (and not in the good BJ way) girls liking me is true. XD

But still, you'll get some someday. :3

[Samurai Drifter]

Ah! Do not worry young man. When you least expect it, someone will come along & before you know it, you'll be having a hot & sweaty sex session with her! (^o^ ) <3

From what I've seen of my friends' and co-workers' experiences, this is completely true.

[cappy]

i was in the same situation a year ago. i know exactly how it feels. theres not much i can say, an opportunity came when i went on a date with this hot girl, and i didnt want to blow it like i have in the past.

[ROCKSTEADY]

i would just devote my time to a skill or something, when you find someone you really love, they're not going to care if your a virgin or anything.

[amy]

the idea is to find a really awkward/uncomfortable/ugly looking girl in somewhere like a manga section of the store. they are all really easy especially the ones over 85 kilos. they have never been hit on before. they are also virgins. good luck

xD;;

[cappy]

i would just devote my time to a skill or something, when you find someone you really love, they're not going to care if your a virgin or anything.

yup no one cares if youre a virgin if you cure cancer

[Anime Gee]

Dude. I just saw your photos in the picture thread & I can tell you that you should be able to EASILY pick up chicks. Heh. I think I know your problem: social skills. Developing your social skills just a bit more would most certainly help. You'll have to find some time to squeeze in a few social activities. Be assertive, but not too aggressive or too timid. Girls like a guy that knows what he wants & is not hesitant about it. Yes. ( ^_^)

[Svenska Aeroplan]

Thanks for all the comments guys. I feel a bit better now.

[Ceraziefish]

yup no one cares if youre a virgin if you cure cancer

First of all that is too great not to sig.

Secondly, Mag-X, what everyone has said is true. Sex isn't important because it's sex; sex is important because of the person that it's with. It doesn't change you in the least; it's not like virgins are worse people or anything stupid like that.

Seriously, I think there are girls out there who would find your problem hot. But it does seem like you've been dealt an unfair hand in that respect. But I wouldn't worry about it. Having no one sucks (I was in that situation for years. but you know what's even worse? Being in a bad relationship. Much better to be alone than that.) but there are worse things. And don't feel like you're wasting time.