How do I got laid?

[Samurai Drifter]

Okay, straight up question here, at the risk of sounding emo or dramatic or whatever (I almost never talk or ask about this kinda stuff).

As someone with a total inability to relate to others emotionally, how do I get a girlfriend? I mean, even if I were to box away all of my comics, anime, and RP material, that wouldn't change my personality. I've been told I'm good looking by a couple of girls, and at least posess the ability to be outgoing, but I have a total lack of any inherent social knowledge or skills. Where do I even start? What do I do? How do I open conversations and get girls interested?

All jokes about me being an utter dork aside.

Especially looking for responses from people like Makil and Amy.

[Silver Cyclone]

I laugh girls into bed.

Thus use this line are your parents retarded? Because your special to me. Worked for me on new years.

[J-Stop]

The process involves talking to women. Go to where women are, and talk to one of them.

I'm not trying to sound like a dick or anything, but that's pretty much all there is to it. Socialize more with people that lack penises.

[J-Stop]

Thus use this line are your parents retarded? Because your special to me. Worked for me on new years.

"I find the most erotic part of a woman is the boobies"

"If I told you you had a nice body, would you take off your pants and dance around a little?"

[Belial]

Yeah, you pretty much just start by talking to one. Once you've got one down, start talking to another. Go to parties that will have girls. At all times you must have The Math in mind.

I don't suppose you have any female friends? What about friends with female friends?

[amy]

Why do you want help on this from me!?!? Sometimes I consider making this same thread in different words.

There are tons of girls who don't mind that you don't have a lot of social skills. I am sure you have a few lying around and that is enough. I would be intimidated by a guy who was really super attractive or really super smooth. Just keep asking them questions about themselves. Try not to talk too long but it's okay if you do a few times.

If you're worried about not connecting emotionally, I know this is girly, but try to genuinely care. I try to care about every person I talk to by imagining they are my parents or brother or sister. It is really interesting to learn about people, it doesn't have to be a chore.

[Samurai Drifter]

Why do you want help on this from me!?!? Sometimes I consider making this same thread in different words.

'Cause you come across as having a lot of empathy.

There are tons of girls who don't mind that you don't have a lot of social skills. I am sure you have a few lying around and that is enough. I would be intimidated by a guy who was really super attractive or really super smooth. Just keep asking them questions about themselves. Try not to talk too long but it's okay if you do a few times.

If you're worried about not connecting emotionally, I know this is girly, but try to genuinely care. I try to care about every person I talk to by imagining they are my parents or brother or sister. It is really interesting to learn about people, it doesn't have to be a chore.

Hmmm...

[Harrison Ford]

It'll just happen, when you least expect it.

I can't say that talking to several girls won't help, because it clearly does. The majority of girls belive it or not, LOVE having sex. I mean, they like it as much as we do. Strange, I know. So it's really easy to find a chick, you just have to start talking to em.

My best friends, which are 23 and 24 just found decent relationships. They both came with a kid included tho, plus they are very jealous and attached.

Finding the right one takes time, sometimes luck, sometimes just talking to so many girls that you come across the one by accident.

Now if you just want to fuck, talk to as many girls as you can, and eventually you'll get one.

Be patient Padawan, for all comes with times. Besides, don't let chicks depress you. You only get one shot at life and you gotta live it up!

[Galkar]

"I find the most erotic part of a woman is the boobies"

"If I told you you had a nice body, would you take off your pants and dance around a little?"

"Is heaven missing an angel? Cause you got nice cans."

[Samurai Drifter]

To all the people that say to "go out and socialize more"- that seems like the obvious answer, yes, but do you think I know people that hold big parties with lots of girls? Not really. At all.

...wait a second. I used to be in a lot of plays. Plays have cast parties. Cast parties have females. There are theaters in the area. Plus, I'm sure girls in theater will be happy to find a guy that's not gay!

[Harrison Ford]

Silly rabbit. Talking to chicks in a bookstore is sufficient.

[Samurai Drifter]

In a bookstore? How exactly would I start a conversation like that?

[Harrison Ford]

In a bookstore? How exactly would I start a conversation like that?

Take notice of the book she may be reading, if it interests you strike a convo about it. Seems like you would be well suited for one of those manga chicks in bookstores. They're the real neardy ones that go to the bookstores and sit there reading manga. No offence to you of course. It was just an example of where. You like games? Talk to a chick at a game store. Etc, etc. Just look at what they are looking into and talk about that. They'll either ignore you or talk to you.

[Nega-Brent]

Oh my.

[margot]

hmm isn't there anime club/meeting in your city? They usually attract girls who will have similar interests and will also be sort of nerdy so it will be easier to talk to them.

[Alundra]

Even though I swore to myself I wouldn't come back here because my opinion was constantly attacked, I'll just do it since I don't fucking care about the responses I get this time around.

To start off, you have the completely wrong state of mind when it comes to being with a woman, if you are going in with the sole idea that you just want to get laid and that's it, you're going to be sorely disappointed since from what I know about you, I believe that you have never been in a relationship; if you don't have a clue on how to relate to a girl with her clothes on, don't expect to please her in any way in the bedroom.

The absoloute best way to get a girlfriend is to be friends, platonic friends, witrh a girl who has alot of friends. This can be a tricky situation because if you manage to get with one of her good friends, the relationship between the platonic friend will suffer if you hurt said friend, but that is the chance that you (and I have) take(n). Another good way is to be older and go out for drinks, which is a sure-fire way to not only improve your social skills, but to make more friends that can introduce you to more girls.

From my experience, I have met every single girl I have dated through a friend, and they have hooked us up in a variety of ways. The key to making things work is to have an amount of confidence that makes your nervousness and fear wash away.

When I met my ex-girlfriend Katie, I thought I didn't have a chance in the world to be with her, but be the end of the night, I had her in my arms. All I did was make her feel important all night (We were in NYC together when we met, with some friends), picked up on every conversation that I could make a joke or comment about (seriously, being able to make a woman laugh seems to be the perfect way into her heart). I made slight gestures like touching her back lightly as we crossed the streets, met eyes with her and just smiled, no words, but I still kept my distance from her by talking to other people in the group which will ultimately help you (unless she is needy), because you keep a certain mystery about you. The key in getting a gril that you like is just to not look desperate, and NOT to settle for whatever comes your way.

Let me be the first to warn you right here: never, ever settle for someone just because they are there. I have done this in the past when I was alot younger and it just leads to you being trapped in a lie, and not only that, you aren't fully dedicated to someone who may have fallen for you. When you are with someone that you liked even before you tried to have them, you will be happier tenfold for that fact alone.

If what you need is a way to learn how to talk to girls, you need to start hanging out in large groups. Why? Because when you happen to bump into someone you like within that certain group, the advantage of having other people to help the conversation facilitates the probability of whether or not the two of you will hit it off alone. The connection will either be there or not, and if it isn't, just move on to the next one.

[J-Stop]

To all the people that say to "go out and socialize more"- that seems like the obvious answer, yes, but do you think I know people that hold big parties with lots of girls? Not really. At all.

I don't know anyone near me that hosts parties, but it doesn't have to be a party. Girls are everywhere, coffee shops, malls, boweling alleys, grocery stores, etc etc.

Anything in your neighborhood will do. Just go out there and be yourself around them, and if you see a girl you like, be cool, relax, and try to start a conversation with her.

[Natsu]

I can't stress it any more then some previous posters, but its best to start out as friends, and come on Jeff, to get laid, you gotta get outta that mindset because your setting yourself up to fail if you jus want a young lady for that, knowing you though you have the common sense in whats bad and whats good.

[eleet]

Take Alundra's advice on not settling for someone just because they are there. (Actually this advice can be applied to many, many things. Not just girls.)

Always think of the whole spectrum.

You mustn't date a woman just because she looks pretty. Personality is far more important than this.

You just need to find a girl with interests similar to your own. You'll find the right one eventually, everyone does.

[amy]

omgwise!elite.

I'm not really sure I agree on the "don't settle for someone" though. Love the one you're with right Or something.

I DUNNO I HAVE NO EXPERIENCE IN ANYTHING

[ROCKSTEADY]

As someone with a total inability to relate to others emotionally, how do I get a girlfriend? I mean, even if I were to box away all of my comics, anime, and RP material, that wouldn't change my personality. I've been told I'm good looking by a couple of girls, and at least posess the ability to be outgoing, but I have a total lack of any inherent social knowledge or skills. Where do I even start? What do I do? How do I open conversations and get girls interested?

Come see me baby

seriously though, its not about sex, its about the relationship.

[J-Stop]

seriously though, its not about sex, its about the relationship.

Unless she's/both of you (are) in it for the sex.

[Anime Gee]

Well young man, this is quite an interesting question. You see, everyone goes through that phase where they realize that they need a special someone in their life. In your case, you might want to hold off on getting laid & developing your social skills instead. Yes.

Want to know the easiest way to pick up on girls? Hang out with friends that have a lot of friends. Before you know it, your talking to some of the girls & you can kinda start narrowing them down & eventually you kinda start talking to one in particular. A good place to go to is a restaurant to eat & drink, especially when girls come along. A place that's even better is a restaurant with a bar & a dance floor. Not only can you eat & drink, but you have the dance floor to take out a few girls. Mind you that if you even don't know how to dance, some of those girls might ask you & they wont mind at all. You start talking to them on the dance floor. You want to know a sure fire way of picking girls up? Learn how to dance Salsa music. There's a lot of contact. Trust me. You want to learn how to dance salsa. Try to find some people that do that or take some classes at school. A man that can keep a lady happy on the dance floor will probably be rewarded after. Heh! ( ^_^)

I'm not too sure how old you are, but a lot of people make it sound like getting laid is the ultimate thing & that you're missing out or that you're some kind of weirdo if you're not getting laid. I'm telling you that you're not missing anything. I'm the opposite. Well, maybe 'cause I started young, but I always tell people to hold off, especially if they've never had sex. Sure, it's among one of the greatest pleasures that you can have, but it's not all that. Don't let people tell you otherwise.

There are occasions where you meet other people & by chance, you & her are totally for having a good time & nothing else. Those "fun times" are quite good, but after a while, it gets old. Trust me. You burn out on random girls & one night stands. After a while, you almost feel like a whore & you begin to feel the need to be with only one girl. Hahaha!

Don't worry young man, your time will come & before you know, you won't know what to do with all those wimenz! ( ^_^) <3

[thebornotaku]

Well young man, this is quite an interesting question. You see, everyone goes through that phase where they realize that they need a special someone in their life. In your case, you might want to hold off on getting laid & developing your social skills instead. Yes.

Want to know the easiest way to pick up on girls? Hang out with friends that have a lot of friends. Before you know it, your talking to some of the girls & you can kinda start narrowing them down & eventually you kinda start talking to one in particular. A good place to go to is a restaurant to eat & drink, especially when girls come along. A place that's even better is a restaurant with a bar & a dance floor. Not only can you eat & drink, but you have the dance floor to take out a few girls. Mind you that if you even don't know how to dance, some of those girls might ask you & they wont mind at all. You start talking to them on the dance floor. You want to know a sure fire way of picking girls up? Learn how to dance Salsa music. There's a lot of contact. Trust me. You want to learn how to dance salsa. Try to find some people that do that or take some classes at school. A man that can keep a lady happy on the dance floor will probably be rewarded after. Heh! ( ^_^)

I'm not too sure how old you are, but a lot of people make it sound like getting laid is the ultimate thing & that you're missing out or that you're some kind of weirdo if you're not getting laid. I'm telling you that you're not missing anything. I'm the opposite. Well, maybe 'cause I started young, but I always tell people to hold off, especially if they've never had sex. Sure, it's among one of the greatest pleasures that you can have, but it's not all that. Don't let people tell you otherwise.

There are occasions where you meet other people & by chance, you & her are totally for having a good time & nothing else. Those "fun times" are quite good, but after a while, it gets old. Trust me. You burn out on random girls & one night stands. After a while, you almost feel like a whore & you begin to feel the need to be with only one girl. Hahaha!

Don't worry young man, your time will come & before you know, you won't know what to do with all those wimenz! ( ^_^) <3

THIS MAN SPEAKS TRUTH.

It's also what my mom tells me all the time, xD

But yeah, he's right. Socialize more and work your way slowly into it.

[Alundra]

By the way, sex is pretty much overrated, it really is. I mean, it's great and all, but don't believe the hype that you hear.

Drunken sex is a completely different story, even though is harder to last longer.