Here we go again

[Svenska Aeroplan]

OK AE, I guess it's depression week for me again.

I'm so fucking frustrated with life right now.

My job is total dog ass, and I'm fucking stuck there. Every morning I have to wake up and go there I feel like a little piece of me dies. I like my co-workers, but the job is just such bullshit. I was burnt out on it a long time ago, and I really want out. I'm out of school, but I can't get shit for work in the I.T. industry because I don't have any job related experience because I cannot get a job in the I.T. industry because I don't have any job related experience.... I cannot get any other generic minimum wage jobs because it seems like fucking everyone has moved to the online job applications that have the exact same personality quiz that I absolutely cannot pass for shit. I've tried telling the truth, and I've tried lying. I try to answer the questions as much as a preppy-social-butter-fly-type-person as much as possible, but god damn it, that just isn't me. It's so frustrating to know that I know I could do the job just fine if they would JUST GIVE ME A FUCKING CHANCE! I'm a good employee, and I work my ass off, but they won't even consider me because of that stupid test.

My social life isn't any better. I've spent the last year and a half doing nothing but working full time and going to school full time. No fun, just work. I moved to this town on my own and have no social network. Now that I have free time, I'm dying to go out and have some fun, but I've got no one to have fun with. Not being 21 also sucks. I don't really care to drink much, but the age limit keeps me from doing and being at a great deal of things that people my age group do. I made some friends while I was at school, but every time they wanted to go do something they would always say, "Hey lets go do [insert something that you have to be 21 or over for]!" All I do now is go to a job I cannot fucking stand during the day, and come home in the evenings and dwell on how much everything sucks.

My next problem builds on the no social network issue. I've mentioned this in my other rant thread(s), but I'm going to say it again. I want a girlfriend. No, I need one. I've never really had one before, and I've definitely never been in a relationship before. This part isn't such a huge deal, but it really hurts my confidence badly when I don't really know what I'm doing. I don't know about everyone else, but during the high schoolish years, I just wasn't mentally ready for such things. However, for the last few months or so, this, for some reason, it has become the thing I absolutely want the most. While it comes with a relationship, I'm not even interested in sex as the number one issue. I really just want someone who needs me as much as I need them. I'm just so tired of being alone. If I had some sort of social network this problem would probably take care of itself. I've always met girls that were interested in me through other people. No amount of confidence boosting or telling myself not to worry are going to change the fact that I'm just not good at walking up to stangers and starting a conversation. Especially ones I'm trying to impress!

I'm sure everything isn't as bad as it seems, but I just feel so horrible right now. My world feels so lost and hopeless. I wish I could just hit a magic reset button and start over.

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Why am I telling you this? Because I have no one else in my life to talk to about things like this. Nobody.

Discuss, or .. whatever.

[JeremyGEE]

Your just in a slump. You don't really need to impress women... Just start random convos with girls at places you normally go(i.e. supermarket or any other place you frequent).

[Reinas]

Contrary to popular belief, alcohol isn't needed to extend your social network. It can help some, it can screw up others. But if you really want to stick with the friends that do something that requires being 21+, get a fake ID.

Or you can extend your social network without using alcohol or without the friends who require being 21 over. Like Bebop said, just start random conversations with girls and guys in the places you frequent. It might seem weird and creepy, starting a random conversation, but the person you're starting a convo with could've been thinking the same thing. The main thing is to just let yourself go. Don't worry about looking stupid, don't worry about the negatives that could happen, if you get shot down then just take it in as a lesson and start again.

You won't learn how to communicate with girls and guys if you don't try. Nobody is good at walking up to strangers and starting random convos. That's why they're strangers, because we don't know what they like/want/expect. But no amount of advice IRL or online will enable you to learn the communication skills you want, unless you put the practical and simple ones to practice.

[Satan]

Contrary to popular belief, alcohol isn't needed to extend your social network. It can help some, it can screw up others. But if you really want to stick with the friends that do something that requires being 21+, get a fake ID.

Or you can extend your social network without using alcohol or without the friends who require being 21 over. Like Bebop said, just start random conversations with girls and guys in the places you frequent. It might seem weird and creepy, starting a random conversation, but the person you're starting a convo with could've been thinking the same thing. The main thing is to just let yourself go. Don't worry about looking stupid, don't worry about the negatives that could happen, if you get shot down then just take it in as a lesson and start again.

You won't learn how to communicate with girls and guys if you don't try. Nobody is good at walking up to strangers and starting random convos. That's why they're strangers, because we don't know what they like/want/expect. But no amount of advice IRL or online will enable you to learn the communication skills you want, unless you put the practical and simple ones to practice.

the world needs more of your wisdom

[Svenska Aeroplan]

Know it. Heard it all before.

I'm really really bad at starting random conversations. Like, really bad. I hate asking employees at stores for help if I cannot find something.

I've always had great luck meeting girls though other people I know. I just wasn't ready..

Of course, now that I am, I live where I don't have any friends. Irony suuuuukss. D:

[Svenska Aeroplan]

Seriously, I can think of five girls of the top of my head that I knew wanted my cock just in the last year of high school alone. (Yes, good looking ones. One hawt even.)

But, I was stupid then ... I guess?

[JeremyGEE]

All behind you now....

[Alundra]

Alright, the first thing I'd like to let you know is that you need to be OK with yourself and your life before you get a girlfriend. If you plan on getting a mentally strong and capable woman in your life, don't expect her to stay around too long if she discovers that you are depending on her for mental stability, or a large portion of your happiness. Sure, girls who may be desperate would love this aspect and cling to you because she thinks that you "need" her, but those are usually broken relationships right from the get-go. You have to come to terms that you don't need a girlfriend, going about it that way will shortchange someone special because you have already put yourself in the mental state that you will take whoever likes you. You may think that you wouldn't do something like that, but you won't even realize it until you wake up one morning next to her and your mistake hits you like a brick wall; it's easy to fall in love with someone who isn't even your type because you weren't happy with yourself yet, so you handed that responsibility to the first girl that fulfilled that need.

Second, establishing a social network while living on your own is extremely difficult without a springboard (such as a childhood friend with you), so you're going to have to face your fears and put yourself out there. I made alot of my friends through work, but please remember that you should always establish a group of friends that are not associated with a potential girlfriend. If the relationship ends and you have made good friends with her friends and no one outside of that circle, you're fucked, you'll be back at square one if you go about it that. way.

I'm not sure where you live, but you need to get in touch with what the underage kids do for fun in that area. Before I could go out to bars and the like, being a Jersey boy, we would hang out in diners in the wee hours of the night (you aren't from Jersey if you haven't done this), go to Weird N.J. locations, hang out in parking lots and shoot the shit, play Guitar Hero, whatever. I suggest just talking to people at work, it's the easiest place to meet new people and get introduced to others; I've made a great deal of friends just by talking to them for awhile to establish some sort of connection, then saying we should go out and do something (shows, drinking, video games if it's the right person) and it all grows from there.

[Harrison Ford]

I could type alot, but none of it is going to help you. No offence to those that did, but he seems like he needs to learn and discover how to do these things by himself, and anything we could possibly say or suggest won't do shit.

Sucks about school tho man. Nothing sucks more than going to school and not getting a job when you get out. You're all like "why the fuck!".

Go out, and live life to it's fucking fullest. Hell, smoke pot! Just don't get caught or whatever. Pot opens your mind. It did with me at least. But there's the chance that you'll turn into a stoner and ruin your life. So think about that... XD

[JeremyGEE]

:mad:

[ROCKSTEADY]

^ Mega lulz.