adopting babies of a different race

[amy]

What do you think of a couple adopting a baby of a different race than them? is it bad for the baby? does it matter especially if the couple is white? is it better for them to adopt an asian baby than a black baby? what about culture? what if they are going to live in the suburbs? what if they are never going to see people of their own race? or conversely does it promote cultural acceptance? is it a Good Deed? would you do this?

Edited December 29, 2005 by amy

[Arcane]

People are people. Doesn't make a speck of difference to me what race the child a couple adopts is.

[Belial]

People are people. Doesn't make a speck of difference to me what race the child a couple adopts is.

[amy]

but what about the whole, "I am not accepted in either black or white society" issueee. (of course ideally there would be no problems but xP)

[Belial]

Well, if they're probably better off not being accepted in their new society, as oppose to being totally abandoned in their old.

[margot]

Well, I think that parents of the adopted child should be obligated to expose them to their own culture/heritage (as well as the parent's culture but that would happen anyway.) And in school comes a mixing between all the races so it's not like they would be totally shut off from everyone who's not the parent's race. Like even those exclusive Asian kids will talk to you if you just look Asian. XD

Edited December 29, 2005 by Lindsay

[Venom112]

Bah, it wouldn't matter, because I'm a social engineer. I don't have time to worry about the various psychological issues the child would have to deal with in the racial confliction of the mind, because it only really matters in a society that constantly enforces identification and seperation of races into various categories. Sure, it may be a society that the child grows up in, but once again, social engineer, just trying to improve stuff.

[JesusTheNinja]

Well, I think that parents of the adopted child should be obligated to expose them to their own culture/heritage (as well as the parent's culture but that would happen anyway.)

I'm not so sure about this. How do you decide what to expose you're children to? And why is it so important that they're introduced to the culture of the people that they look like?

Basicly, I'm just imagining some akward situations:

"But da~ad I don't wan-"

"No buts! We adopted you from black people, so you're going to listen to Gangsta Rap, and you're going to like it!"

"But mo~om, can't I wear a normal prom dress?"

"We've been over this. We adopted you from Asia, so you're going to wear a kimono to prom. End of discusion."

[amy]

I think it's good to be introduced to all cultures~

I guess the important thing is to live in a diverse area/school district, not like mine xD

[margot]

I'm not so sure about this. How do you decide what to expose you're children to? And why is it so important that they're introduced to the culture of the people that they look like?

Basicly, I'm just imagining some akward situations:

"But da~ad I don't wan-"

"No buts! We adopted you from black people, so you're going to listen to Gangsta Rap, and you're going to like it!"

"But mo~om, can't I wear a normal prom dress?"

"We've been over this. We adopted you from Asia, so you're going to wear a kimono to prom. End of discusion."

What are you talking about? African-Americans/Asian-Americans/ect who are exposed to their cultures still assimilate into modern American culture.

There are already a lot of programs/books/musuems/whathaveyou that were created to teach about certain cultures, and so I don't see why parents simply couldn't stem off from there. What's so strange/difficult about a parent exposing their child to foreign cultures? And generally children have curiosity about their own culture..

[amy]

AHHHHH!!!!! IT'S GPS!!!!!!!!

[JesusTheNinja]

What are you talking about? African-Americans/Asian-Americans/ect who are exposed to their cultures still assimilate into modern American culture.

There are already a lot of programs/books/musuems/whathaveyou that were created to teach about certain cultures, and so I don't see why parents simply couldn't stem off from there. What's so strange/difficult about a parent exposing their child to foreign cultures? And generally children have curiosity about their own culture..

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I've got no goddamn idea what I was saying. :/

I had a point, something about it not being more important that adopted children know the culture of their biological family than any other culture and that pushing children to learn about their "biological culture" could alienate them, but I can't remember why I wrote what I wrote.

As long as the child wants to learn about his/her biological family's culture, then, by all means, teach them. However, I think it ought to be the kid's desision. It seems like it would be hard on a kid to be forced to learn about a culture that isn't their own. That would just punctuate the fact that they were adopted, something that might bother the kid.

[Ceraziefish]

People are people. Doesn't make a speck of difference to me what race the child a couple adopts is.

[Elitist Indie Hipster]

I think its fine, my girlfriend's aunt went to china and adopted a chinese girl. She is loved by everyone. She even asked her mom if she could go back to china to learn about her history and such. I think adopting from a different country or race is great. In most cases you are giving that child a better chance of survival than they would have had before they were adopted, especially if you adopt from africa.