help my sisterrr

[amy]

how can i help my sister get like a psychologist or medicine or something, she has problems & wants to die and says so all the time. Although there's no like "ABUSE" going on at home she really feels abused and my parents don't want to do anything to help her. They won't consider therapy, they think it will put communist ideas in her head. Is there any way I can like force the courts to help her, she's really afraid of when I go to college. D: One time she was crying and her muscles went all rigid and cold so I called 911 but it turned out that's what happens to your muscles when you hyperventilate. I asked if they could do anything and they said no, but that we should try family therapy or something. :P

[darkon]

Look up a local therapist and talk to them by yourself. Many of them are really nice people and will certainly be willing to hear you talk to them and then they can help decide what to do from there.

[Arcane]

You should really try to convince your parents that there is definately a problem and she needs to be helped. There's not much that can be done without your parents helping.

[Mithrandir]

You might as well just like make some social worker type agency (like child protective services) aware of the situation. They'd probably be more aware of your options than anyone online.

[amy]

thanks everyone, I think I'm going to ask my health teacher (she seems like a nice person) what to do.

[Wind]

Do you have any idea what could be causing this rather sudden(?) outburst of depression?

[amy]

she's been asking me to help her since last winter x_x,

but basically she feels like her parents don't love her, and for no reason, she is too sad to relate to her old friends. (She's made some new ones though :D)

Edited January 5, 2006 by amy

[Gundampilotspaz]

Amy, keep her out of white make-up and black clothes. ><

I'm surprised this has been going on so long, I remember the first time you mentioned it, get someone in there to wack some sense into your parents.

[Pamuya]

how old is she?

you could call CPS, but here they don't do shit. don't know about your state.

[amy]

she's eleven D:

they might help here since it's like really rich xP

[Gundampilotspaz]

She's eleven and she has all these problems?

You better get help now or they'll just continue to get worse.

[CTL is kool]

she's been asking me to help her since last winter x_x,

but basically she feels like her parents don't love her, and for no reason, she is too sad to relate to her old friends. (She's made some new ones though :D)

And this is different than anyone else at her age?

Really.

[Mithrandir]

I'd say that it is... considering some of the incidents that has transpired.

[Ceraziefish]

And this is different than anyone else at her age?

Really.

I was happier at eleven than I am now. Mostly because I didn't go to silly message boards when I was eleven. :biggrin:

[CTL is kool]

I'd say that it is... considering some of the incidents that has transpired.

Hyperventallating? Feeling sorry for herself?

I think that is what happens when you are 11. There has been nothing but utter denial of any sort of abuse.

This is a child who doesn't feel loved. Sorry, its unpleasant. But that is how we ALL felt at that age.

[Kreutz]

The cocksucker brings up an interesting point. I'm sure it seems like the whole world's falling on you when you're aged 11-15, but once you get older you grow out of it. Smae with the panic attacks. It's a phase. People go through them.

[Venom112]

The cocksucker brings up an interesting point. I'm sure it seems like the whole world's falling on you when you're aged 11-15, but once you get older you grow out of it. Smae with the panic attacks. It's a phase. People go through them.

Tell that to Atlas some time punk!

[CTL is kool]

The cocksucker brings up an interesting point. I'm sure it seems like the whole world's falling on you when you're aged 11-15, but once you get older you grow out of it. Smae with the panic attacks. It's a phase. People go through them.

Kreutz I am touched that I rate enough annoyance in your little world that you refer to me as a "cocksucker".

Truth be told I am Lord of the Vagina. But I am certain in your world being lord of the cock is far more important.

[Kreutz]

Kreutz I am touched that I rate enough annoyance in your little world that you refer to me as a "cocksucker".

Truth be told I am Lord of the Vagina. But I am certain in your world being lord of the cock is far more important.

It's a term of endearment. You're the only person here more annoying than me. Besides GPS, of course.

[amy]

Well I don't know any other eleven year old who does :P

I figure why should she spend 4 years (11-15) sad even if that's true, it's a waste

[Venom112]

Well I don't know any other eleven year old who does :P

I figure why should she spend 4 years (11-15) sad even if that's true, it's a waste

What if her sadness would have caused some real growth and a burst of pure creativity, and you've just killed the chance?

[Galkar]

If she's asking you for help then it seems quite foolish to pass it off as regular 11 year old angst.

[Wind]

If she's asking you for help then it seems quite foolish to pass it off as regular 11 year old angst.

Yeah I'd try to seek some form of guidance if you think it is that serious and requires that step.

[darkon]

I personally suggest seeking guidance in every case because for every few cases of it being just natural and not harmful in the slightest there is one case where it is a serious medical problem.

This is what my dad does for a living now, well he's an administrator. But he used to be a social worker mainly for troubled children. Now he oversees the whole department or something, not as hands-on with the kids I don't think. And I should add that I did ask him about your sister amy. I did it all general "I have a friend who was wondering something.." but he gave me an honest answer.

Edited January 9, 2006 by Marcus Aurelius

[v for vicki]

Your sister really should see someone to help her. Maybe a counselor in school, or anyone. If it is difficult to get her to see somebody, just make sure to always be open with her and talk with her. There is obviously something going on in which your sister is crying out for attention; not that she is faking a serious problem, but just that she needs help with something emotionally distressful. Be there for her; that's the best thing a sister could do. Being at college doesn't mean you can't talk to her on the phone and send her fun things in the mail. I'm not saying that will cure her or even help her, but if she knows someone is there, loves her, and sympathizes with her, then perhaps it will ease some stress.