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ARLINGTON, Texas - A megachurch canceled a memorial service for a Navy veteran 24 hours before it was to start because the deceased was gay.

Officials at the nondenominational High Point Church knew that Cecil Howard Sinclair was gay when they offered to host his service, said his sister, Kathleen Wright. But after his obituary listed his life partner as one of his survivors, she said, it was called off.

“It’s a slap in the face. It’s like, ’Oh, we’re sorry he died, but he’s gay so we can’t help you,”’ she said Friday.

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Wright said High Point offered to hold the service for Sinclair because their brother is a janitor there. Sinclair, who served in the first Gulf War, died Monday at age 46 from an infection after surgery to prepare him for a heart transplant.

The church’s pastor, the Rev. Gary Simons, said no one knew Sinclair, who was not a church member, was gay until the day before the Thursday service, when staff members putting together his video tribute saw pictures of men “engaging in clear affection, kissing and embracing.”

‘It’s not that we didn’t love the family’

Simons said the church believes homosexuality is a sin, and it would have appeared to endorse that lifestyle if the service had been held there.

“We did decline to host the service — not based on hatred, not based on discrimination, but based on principle,” Simons told The Associated Press. “Had we known it on the day they first spoke about it — yes, we would have declined then. It’s not that we didn’t love the family.”

Simons said the decision had nothing to do with the obituary. He said the church offered to pay for another site for the service, made the video and provided food for more than 100 relatives and friends.

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“Even though we could not condone that lifestyle, we went above and beyond for the family through many acts of love and kindness,” Simons said.

Wright called the church’s claim about the pictures “a bold-faced lie.” She said she provided numerous family pictures of Sinclair, including some with his partner, but said none showed men kissing or hugging.

The 5,000-member High Point Church was founded in 2000 by Simons and his wife, April, whose brother is Joel Osteen, well-known pastor of the 38,000-member Lakewood Church in Houston. Now High Point meets in a 432,000-square-foot facility in Arlington, near Dallas.

Wright said relatives declined the church’s offer to hold the service at a community center because they felt it was an inappropriate venue. It ultimately was held at a funeral home, but the cancellation still lingered in some minds, she said.

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Good, I don't think funerals and memorials should be carried out by religious institutions.

Think about it, if you were black, would you want the KKK to do a memorial for you? Then why would a gay man want an organization that says homosexuality is a sin to organize his memorial?

**this post is only half joking

**i move away from the mic to breathe in

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Burn it.

the ad, the church, or the gay dude's corpse?

Good, I don't think funerals and memorials should be carried out by religious institutions.

Think about it, if you were black, would you want the KKK to do a memorial for you? Then why would a gay man want an organization that says homosexuality is a sin to organize his memorial?

**this post is only half joking

**i move away from the mic to breathe in

I can understand that, but on the other hand, this guys brother did work there.

and now I'm going to have to listen to chocoalte rain again

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Yeah, I agree that this is despicable by the church. The obvious connection would be to "He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone"....They are without right to judge him when they are sinners the same. Definitely not "love thy neighbor" :-/

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Yeah, I agree that this is despicable by the church. The obvious connection would be to "He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone"....They are without right to judge him when they are sinners the same. Definitely not "love thy neighbor" :-/

Excellent point. If the church didn't do services for people only if they weren't sinners, well... I've got a woman named Mary I can introduce them to?

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Yeah, I agree that this is despicable by the church. The obvious connection would be to "He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone"....They are without right to judge him when they are sinners the same. Definitely not "love thy neighbor" :-/

The church isn't saying that he's a sinner and they aren't. It's saying that he lived a lifestyle of unrepentant sin and was deliberately going against the bible. Now, I'm not agreeing with them but I'm just stating what their real position is. I think that the church (not this church but all of American Christianity) places too much emphasis and condemnation on homosexuality while people in the church live no better and have their own sins that they deal with.

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The church isn't saying that he's a sinner and they aren't. It's saying that he lived a lifestyle of unrepentant sin and was deliberately going against the bible. Now, I'm not agreeing with them but I'm just stating what their real position is. I think that the church (not this church but all of American Christianity) places too much emphasis and condemnation on homosexuality while people in the church live no better and have their own sins that they deal with.

I think you mean "but American christianity as a whole. you can hardly know what all of christiantiy thinks, especially since many denominations, parishes, and christians are quite accepting.

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I think you mean "but American christianity as a whole. you can hardly know what all of christiantiy thinks, especially since many denominations, parishes, and christians are quite accepting.

Case in point: Episocpalians, I think, are accepting of homosexuals, and I think have a couple homosexual priests (but also their heterosexual priests are allowed to marry).

While I disagree with this church's decision, I have to ask, why not just hold the memorial service at a funeral home? I've had two older friends die (one recently) and neither of them was religious, and had their respective memorial services at funeral homes.

Unless this man was a particularly religious person, I don't much see the point in having the service at a church.

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