Ikari Warrior Posted December 29, 2008 Share Posted December 29, 2008 A last week or two weeks ago, I started chatting with a girl I'd met online. Last night, I asked if she wanted to hang out, and she gave me the response: me: want to hang out sometime? her: *shrugs* her: goodnight richard How am I supposed to take that? It's not a flat-out rejection, but it sounds like indifference, which to me is way worse. I'm not sure how to feel or what to say to her next or if I should even talk to her again. This has been bothering me since last night, and I'm not sure what to do to shut it out. Link to comment
GummyBearOfDoom Posted December 29, 2008 Share Posted December 29, 2008 That means no. Link to comment
Dramatic Conclusion Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 She's not into you. If a guy asked me if I wanted to hang out, I'd assume it was a passive aggressive attempt unless he mentioned some kind of safe event that I could bring other people to (and vise versa) if we haven't met before. If I was into him, and he offered to hang out, I'd say 'hell yes' and offer suggestions on dates/locations. Link to comment
Tyrannosaurus-Sex Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 I don't know any girls who don't think guys they only know from the internet asking them if they want to hang out is really creepy however innocent their intentions may be. Link to comment
Ikari Warrior Posted December 30, 2008 Author Share Posted December 30, 2008 I talked to this girl more last night, and she is a confusing one. She doesn't want to hang out, but has no problem if I want to call her. Thank you all for your input. I agree, Aelice, that she's not into me. Maybe her opinion will change. it's doubtful, but at this point, it's whatever. I didn't mention any specific or non-specific activities, I just asked if she wanted to hang out. Maybe that was interpreted as passive-aggressive, and maybe I need to be more aggressive? I've met a couple girls who were really excited at the prospect of meeting me, one of whom hung out with me at my parents' house while we played video games in my room. We didn't end up dating, but we are still friends. Everyone's different, I guess. Maybe she needs time to be coaxed out of her shell. I wrote my initial rant when I was overtired and having a bad day. I'm having another bad day, but at least I'm well-rested now! Link to comment
Alundra Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 Stop meeting girls online. Seriously. Link to comment
Belial Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 Better luck next time. Link to comment
GummyBearOfDoom Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 Meeting girls online is generally creepy. I forget what it's from but Seth Rogen said you gotta go meat 'em at Pumpkin Patches and shit. I think the 40 year old Virgin, haha. Link to comment
Dramatic Conclusion Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 Stop meeting girls online. Seriously. I'm mixed, here. :P I've met some nice guys on OKCupid, but most of them are psychopaths so I've totally stopped meeting guys for dates. But I introduced my friend to the site, and 2 months later, she moved in with her online sweetie and they are like the perfect couple. I'm just super picky and the whole prospect of meeting that special someone in general is weird weird weird. <-- needs too much alone time to really commit to a relationship right now Also, don't take it personally! Before meeting a dude online, I definitely take my time. I've met WAY too many freaky guys who ended up having a bestiality fetish, just wanted a hook-up (and I specifically state in my profile that I'm not that kinda girl), or are creepy 40-50 year old guys who hate women but want to relieve their hormonal teenage years with a young chica. Link to comment
Natsu Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 Stop meeting girls online. Seriously. it depends Mike, I met Rita online and we chatted for like a year on the phone and through chats and then we met and BAM I'm happily married.. but I'll admit that online relationships are for the birds if there isn't any human contact Link to comment
Ikari Warrior Posted December 31, 2008 Author Share Posted December 31, 2008 Also, don't take it personally! Before meeting a dude online, I definitely take my time. I've met WAY too many freaky guys who ended up having a bestiality fetish, just wanted a hook-up (and I specifically state in my profile that I'm not that kinda girl), or are creepy 40-50 year old guys who hate women but want to relieve their hormonal teenage years with a young chica. Yeah, I took it personally because I as having a really bad day; that was icing on the cake. I got her number yesterday, and I'm going to give her a call, when it's convenient, lol. It really is a crying shame how many creeps there are out there that ruin it for us good guys who are looking online for a legitimate relationship, and not just some random play. I met Rita online and we chatted for like a year on the phone and through chats and then we met and BAM I'm happily married.. Good stuff, man. Congrats! but I'll admit that online relationships are for the birds if there isn't any human contact Agreed. Let the teenagers have their unrequited online-only lovelife. I'm too old for that shit. Link to comment
Natsu Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 I can just wish the best for you man.. thats all it will take. Link to comment
Gundampilotspaz Posted January 1, 2009 Share Posted January 1, 2009 Also, don't take it personally! Before meeting a dude online, I definitely take my time. I've met WAY too many freaky guys who ended up having a bestiality fetish, just wanted a hook-up You should stop using AE as a dating site. Link to comment
Dramatic Conclusion Posted January 3, 2009 Share Posted January 3, 2009 You should stop using AE as a dating site. :awesome: :awesome: :awesome: Link to comment
Ceraziefish Posted January 3, 2009 Share Posted January 3, 2009 You should stop using AE as a dating site. DON'T RUIN MY CHANCES Link to comment
Scarface Posted January 3, 2009 Share Posted January 3, 2009 Stop asking girls out completely! Make them come to you, ala Craig's List! It works so well that you will even get hits by guys as well! *poses* Link to comment
Dramatic Conclusion Posted January 4, 2009 Share Posted January 4, 2009 Yes, the quickest way to an STD, sociopath, and/or stalker is the way to go. :wub: Link to comment
Ceraziefish Posted January 4, 2009 Share Posted January 4, 2009 Easy for you to say. You've never answered one of *my* craigslist ads. http://www.accelerated-e.com/index.php?showtopic=5029 Link to comment
Dramatic Conclusion Posted January 4, 2009 Share Posted January 4, 2009 I actually met two of my best friends on Craigslist. :D Link to comment
Ceraziefish Posted January 4, 2009 Share Posted January 4, 2009 Oh yeah? Well, of course, the only correct response is that I actually met YOUR MOM on craigslist. :D Link to comment
Anime Gee Posted January 4, 2009 Share Posted January 4, 2009 Hahaha! Some of the responses on here are just too damn funny! (^o^ ) <3 But yeah. I guess I'm old-skool & I rather meet people face to face. I'm not into the whole meeting people online deal. Too many weirdos out there! That chick sounds like, "Meh. Whatever." Sounds like a waste of time to me if you're trying to go farther than an online friendship. Yeap. (^_^ ) Link to comment
Dramatic Conclusion Posted January 4, 2009 Share Posted January 4, 2009 Yeah, but for people who are introverts (LIKE ME :D :D), I've met plenty of other awesome introverts online that I would never have met in person. I'm going back to the old school way for dating, though. Too bad I work in one of the most shallow cities in the nation.. /wrist/ Nobody values a dark sense of humor and the ability to breathe with only one lung. /doesn't want those shallow douchebags anyway/ Link to comment
winterlong Posted January 4, 2009 Share Posted January 4, 2009 Luckily when we all talk about having an AE meet up, we already know who the creeps and babes are. Link to comment
Artie Posted January 4, 2009 Share Posted January 4, 2009 Luckily when we all talk about having an AE meet up, we already know who the creeps and babes are. and then there are those who are a mixture of both. Link to comment
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